What to do if husband is gay
An Intense Fight With My Husband Has Me Convinced Our Entire Life Is a Lie
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Dear How to Do It,
Please help. I’m attractive sure my husband of more than 20 years is gay.
Some background: I have anxiety, and anxiety can come with paranoia at times. He’s been my only sexual boyfriend , and we were married when I was in my early 20s. We are of similar ages, but he had been in other sexual relationships, which was fine with me. I just hadn’t. Now, plus years and multiple kids later, half our marriage has been him not wanting to have much to accomplish with physical stuff fond of kissing, cuddling, or sex—unless I perform on him, usually. I am lonely as hell. We nap in the same bed, but I feel enjoy we are just roommates. He’s not super express, and I’ve brought this conversation up so many times up over the last 15 or so years, but every period there’s another reason: He has bad breath; he’s tired; he just wants to be with his friends (I’m not invited). He says every moment I bring it
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What Would You Do If You Found Out Your Husband Was Gay?
It’s funny. As he came out of the closet, I felt like I was existence forced in. No-one understood. No-one really knew what to utter . When he came out, he was greeted with encouragement and affirmation. There were support groups for gay married men, forums where he could discuss what he was going through. He was finally being true to himself, forging a new persona, taking his destiny into his own hands. I was left alone to pick up the pieces. Unseen. Unheard.
We met in our late teens and the attraction was instant: he was very cute, and always had a bevy of adoring women hanging out of him, but he seemed to only include eyes for me. We had the same sense of humour, liked the same things, and six weeks later, we hooked up and were one of the first couples in the gang to marry and fix down.
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Is My Husband Gay? Signs of a Gay Husband
Sometimes a woman may possess been in a heterosexual relationship for years and yet feel something is somehow "off;" and she may find herself asking, "Is my husband gay?" Many women find this question unthinkable but according to Bonnie Kaye, , an expert in women married to gay men, it is estimated that 4 million women possess been, or are, married to gay men. If a husband is male lover, it can devastate not only the relationship but the straight wife as well.
Signs of a Homosexual Husband – Is My Man Gay?
The clearest way to know if your husband is gay is if he tells you. If the husband is honest with both you and with himself (read: How Do I Realize If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay), that is when you can truly know that he is gay. Unfortunately, it is estimated that 50% of gay husbands hide their homosexuality from their wives and don't reach this place of honesty on their retain. In many cases, it is the wife, who after suspecting that something is wrong, must confront the gay husband with the evidence, and only then can honestly be achieved.
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