Gay man married to straight woman
A gay man and a direct woman got married. They speak it's not a 'lavender marriage' but founded on 'true pure love.'
Growing up gay and without examples of successful marriages in his family, Jacob Hoff didn't think he'd ever get married — let alone to a woman.
But in November last year, Hoff, 31, married his longtime girlfriend, Samantha Wynn Greenstone,
When Business Insider spoke to the LA-based couple in , they explained that they were in a "mixed-orientation" relationship, meaning that they have different sexual orientations. Hoff is a gay male, and Greenstone is a direct woman.
The two musical theatre performers started off as best friends, but started dating in when Greenstone admitted that she had romantic feelings for Hoff and he realized he felt the same way.
They've now been together for eight years in a monogamous relationship, and decided to tie the knot last year.
BI caught up with them to ask about their wedding, future plans, and whether the way others see them has changed.
Hoff and Greenstone put their retain 'campy' stamp on wedding
I’m a Straight Lady Who Married a Gay Man
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Dear Prudence,
I met my husband 13 years ago, and we’ve been together ever since. We fell deeply, madly in love with each other and include been married for nine wonderful years now. He’s patient, kind, gentle-hearted. He’s also always been honest about creature gay and has never hidden it from me. Only one of our mutual friends knows this about my husband. Our son also knows, since we thought it would be optimal to remain unclosed with him about it, so he never “found out” by surprise or from our joint friend. Our son took the news very well and doesn’t care that his father was gay.
I’ve never told my family, or really any of my friends, as I think they’d all be judgmental. My siblings don’t like my husband, but that’s a different letter
To read the wife's grab on this story, click here.
Like most couples, my wife and I, packed of hope and commit , walked down the corridor of the church where we married. We were both dedicated, Evangelical Christians. I was in the ministry at the day. We were young, in love, and believed that, with God on our side, the whole earth had been laid out before us.
But I was gay.
People frequently ask if my wife knew I was gay when she married me. The address is a bit more complicated than a easy yes or no. I had gone through an ex-gay ministry, the most famous one in the country in fact, and was working for them when we got married. My wife and I believed I had been "healed" of my homosexuality, or was at least in the process of being healed. Our faith taught us to belief, pray and believe that God could do miraculous things.
It wasn't too lengthy into the marriage before we both began to sense something was erroneous. There was an hidden wall that separated us emotionally. I wanted to believe it wasn't there and denied it vehemently when she brought it up. We prayed harder. I had suffic
My Husband’s Not Gay, a show on TLC, has caused an uproar. The negative attention is unfortunate because this could own been a show that highlighted mixed-orientation couples and how these couples can actually make their relationships work.
Why do some people become so outspoken and judgmental about marriages with one straight and one gay spouse? There are several reasons. These marriages raise concerns about infidelity. They bring out people’s judgments about what marriage should or should not be. In particular, they bring out people’s opinions about monogamy.
Finally, these relationships suggest to some people “reparative therapy,” the unethical and impossible claim that a person can be changed from gay to straight. The men in this television program aren’t claiming to be ex-gay nor that they can change their sexual orientation (at least not on the show). They state they are attracted to men but choose not to live as a gay man and their straight wives accept this.
People seem to get up in arms when a man says he is not gay but rather simply attracted to men. In our cultu
I’m a Straight Lady Who Married a Gay Man
To obtain advice from Prudie, submit your questions anonymously here. (Questions may be lightly edited for publication.) Join the inhabit chat every Monday at noon (and submit your comments) here, or contact the Dear Prudence podcast voicemail at to hear your question answered on a future episode of the show.
Dear Prudence,
I met my husband 13 years ago, and we’ve been together ever since. We fell deeply, madly in love with each other and include been married for nine wonderful years now. He’s patient, kind, gentle-hearted. He’s also always been honest about creature gay and has never hidden it from me. Only one of our mutual friends knows this about my husband. Our son also knows, since we thought it would be optimal to remain unclosed with him about it, so he never “found out” by surprise or from our joint friend. Our son took the news very well and doesn’t care that his father was gay.
I’ve never told my family, or really any of my friends, as I think they’d all be judgmental. My siblings don’t like my husband, but that’s a different letter
To read the wife's grab on this story, click here.
Like most couples, my wife and I, packed of hope and commit , walked down the corridor of the church where we married. We were both dedicated, Evangelical Christians. I was in the ministry at the day. We were young, in love, and believed that, with God on our side, the whole earth had been laid out before us.
But I was gay.
People frequently ask if my wife knew I was gay when she married me. The address is a bit more complicated than a easy yes or no. I had gone through an ex-gay ministry, the most famous one in the country in fact, and was working for them when we got married. My wife and I believed I had been "healed" of my homosexuality, or was at least in the process of being healed. Our faith taught us to belief, pray and believe that God could do miraculous things.
It wasn't too lengthy into the marriage before we both began to sense something was erroneous. There was an hidden wall that separated us emotionally. I wanted to believe it wasn't there and denied it vehemently when she brought it up. We prayed harder. I had suffic
My Husband’s Not Gay, a show on TLC, has caused an uproar. The negative attention is unfortunate because this could own been a show that highlighted mixed-orientation couples and how these couples can actually make their relationships work.
Why do some people become so outspoken and judgmental about marriages with one straight and one gay spouse? There are several reasons. These marriages raise concerns about infidelity. They bring out people’s judgments about what marriage should or should not be. In particular, they bring out people’s opinions about monogamy.
Finally, these relationships suggest to some people “reparative therapy,” the unethical and impossible claim that a person can be changed from gay to straight. The men in this television program aren’t claiming to be ex-gay nor that they can change their sexual orientation (at least not on the show). They state they are attracted to men but choose not to live as a gay man and their straight wives accept this.
People seem to get up in arms when a man says he is not gay but rather simply attracted to men. In our cultu